How do you solve helicopter parenting?

Let go of perfectionism, it's essential to accept that your children will not do everything perfectly. Instead of taking over to ensure their homework is just right, offer advice and assistance when they ask for it. Don't be tempted to fight their battles, you should absolutely offer support and guidance if they are going through a tough time, but there's a difference between offering advice and stepping in to fight their battles for them. Give them autonomy, if you find yourself doing everything for them, take a step back, write a list of the things they could and should do for themselves at their age and let them do it. Allow them to be adventurous, if they ask to do something which is suitable for their age and abilities, let them. The key is to ensure you are there for your children when they need you, but let them seek help on their own terms, rather than forcing it on them. Take advantage of any opportunities in which your children can be independent, learn a new skill or be adventurous.

Remind them only once, no one likes a nag, and no one likes being a nag. Leave it, just because you can fix something doesn’t mean you have to, or even that you should. Stop taking responsibility for your kids’ actions, you know what I’m talking about –– that subconscious impulse to excuse our kids’ actions because “we” didn’t remember to remind them. Let them fail, this is a biggie, we often feel like our kids’ performance is somehow connected to our parenting skills –– “If they fail, I fail.” Let them learn from their own experiences, I know –– it’s our job to protect our kids from anything uncomfortable, but the truth is that uncomfortable learning experiences are often powerful ones. Focus on equipping your kids with the skills they need, you’re not in class with your kids all day long, you’re not there on the school bus, you can’t possibly be responsible for everything your kids do or should be doing. Don’t do for your kids what they can do for themselves, here’s another habit we grew into out of love for our kids, right, but we have to remember that they’re capable. Count the stakes, right now, the stakes are probably pretty small, forgetting their homework means getting a zero on one assignment, not the marking period. Recognize the paradox, letting your kids learn from their own mistakes isn’t bad parenting –– it’s phenomenal parenting, it’s all about preparing them for adulthood. Name the feeling, if your efforts to pull back from being a helicopter parent make you feel a little uncomfortable, you’re probably doing something right.