Timeout is a temporary, artificial, and inadequate solution to a real problem. The problem with this logic is that it assumes children are thinking reasonably when they are breaking the rules. The truth is that they’re usually acting on impulses that don’t make sense to them either. So, in effect, we’re expecting them to reason out the unreasonable while dealing with equal doses of shame and guilt, then miraculously come to their senses and henceforth conduct themselves with a more mature level of self-control. This is a fantasy. It’s just not going to happen. Timeout closes the door on communication in the misguided hope that children will think about their behavior and, shamed, resolve to do better in the future. When kids feel judged and rejected, they tend to clam up. Defiance, aggression and other limit pushing behavior are our children’s way of letting us know their impulses have taken hold. Self-control has left the building, and they need to be able to depend on ours as back-up.