Instead, you can focus on helping your baby understand and deal with their feelings so they feel more secure. They'll learn that if you leave them, they will be OK and you will come back. If your baby's old enough, you can talk to them about what's happening, where you're going and when you'll be with them again. Practise short separations from your baby to begin with. You could start by leaving them in someone else's care for a few minutes while you nip to the local shop. Leave your baby with someone they know well so they still feel comfortable and safe in your absence. Gradually work towards longer separations, and then leaving them in less familiar settings. Talk about what you'll do together later. Talk to your toddler about what you're going to do when you see them again so they have something to look forward to with you. Leave something comforting with your baby. It may comfort your baby to have something they identify with you – like a scarf with your scent on or a favourite toy – close by. Make saying goodbye a positive time. When you leave your baby, however sad or worried you may be feeling, smile and wave goodbye confidently and happily, otherwise they will pick up on your tension.