How to give off calm vibes?

You can respond to the same event with anxiety or anger, or you can respond with peace and calmness. A calm morning ritual is one of the habits to develop that will help you develop calmness. I wake up a little earlier and start with a little meditation, then a few yoga poses. Exercise is another component of my morning routine. You don’t need to do the same things, but find the quiet of the morning and make the most of it. Don’t take things personally, many times the response is to take things personally, but the truth is, it’s not personal -- it’s the other person’s issue that they’re dealing with. Be grateful, sure, lots of people talk about gratitude, but how often do we apply it to the events of our day. Create stress coping habits, many times, when we are faced with stress, we have unhealthy responses, instead, we need healthy ways to cope with stress, which will come inevitably. Healthy stress coping habits include drinking tea, exercise, yoga, meditation, massaging your own neck & shoulders, taking a walk, drinking some water, talking with someone you care about. Single-task, just do one thing, and learn to trust that you shouldn’t be doing anything else, it takes practice, just eat, just wash your bowl, just walk, just talk to someone. Reduce noise, our lives are filled with all kinds of noise, reduce all these things and more, and create some space, some quiet, in your life.

To give off calm vibes, practice displaying a ‘neutral facial expression’, this means softening your gaze, reducing eye contact and relaxing the facial muscles. Match your body signals to your face, allow your shoulders to sink down, loosen your arms, and stand in an open posture. Stand still, as when people cross their body, it makes them look nervous, it’s looks like they are getting ready to defend themselves from some form of physical attack. Make the effort to deliberately keep your voice low and your speech slow, keep your breathing steady, as when under stress, we tend to talk faster and in a higher pitch that can be stimulating to the fight/ flight part of human brains. The children will naturally pick up on these cues and sense that you feel nervous or challenged. When managing highly stressful situations, the first person who needs to calm down is you, even if your heart is beating like the clappers, you can train yourself to give the illusion of being calm and in control. The effect of this is that children feel safe in the knowledge that you are calm and you know how to handle the situation.