How do you politely tell someone they are inconsiderate?
Nash Rosenbaum
2025-07-06 22:43:05
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When inconsiderate behavior comes from a person close to you, the right strategy may look a bit different. If the person is someone you have a relationship with, start by communicating with them how their behavior makes you feel. For example, ‘When you play loud music while I’m trying to work, I feel frustrated, and it makes me think you don’t care about my needs or my career.’ Do not react — instead respond, try not to raise your voice or get defensive, and respond with a lower tone of voice using I statements. For example, ‘I hear you’ or ‘I feel disrespected when you use those words.’ Be firm in your responses and your needs. Using empathy is one way to understand someone’s reason for being inconsiderate, recognizing that their behavior stems from their own insecurities, past experiences, or unmet needs can help you respond rather than react to their behavior. If it’s appropriate, share with them that you understand where they’re coming from. Approaching it with compassion may motivate them and can help mirror certain behaviors they can work on for themselves.
Eli Jenkins
2025-06-28 22:37:32
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Telling someone directly how you feel about what they did is often uncomfortable but easier on your mind and body than holding your anger and fear inside. You might say, “I would like to share something with you because I value our relationship.” Briefly describe what happened that felt hurtful or disrespectful, say, “When I was talking, you (said or did this).” Say how their behavior made you feel—the impact, cleanly say that it felt like what you had to say was not valuable. You feel angry, frustrated, hurt, scared, or you just give up when this happens. Use “I” statements, don’t blame them for not caring or judge them for being insensitive. Ask for what you need going forward, what would you like them to do instead of what happened, again, be specific. End by reinforcing why you are making this request, tell them again why your relationship is important to them.
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