How to get someone to stop a behavior?
Eli Jenkins
2025-07-06 03:20:23
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To get someone to stop a behavior, politely tell them that it bothers you the first time someone does something that irritates you. The longer you wait after that first offense, the harder it’ll be to manage the “politely” part of this step. If, after politely requesting they stop, the offender continues their behavior, politely remind them again, perhaps pursue a compromise, politely of course. It may sound obvious, but it’s easy to get sucked into ceaseless volleys of passive-aggressive Post-Its and venting sessions with third parties without asking yourself the simple question: Have I made my wants and needs sufficiently clear to the people in my life. Unless you’re a high-ranking Buddhist monk, it’s only human nature to get irked when the routines of those we love harsh our collective mellows. Generally, when you dig for the origin of these heated disputes, you find a pretty standard history: a period of silently waiting for the offender to correct his behavior, a bout of frosty silence, an extended period of passive-aggressive sniping, leading to months or even years of moaning to innocent bystanders. There’s often one step missing: politely letting the offender know that they’re actually, y’know, offending you.
Alec McKenzie
2025-06-29 00:00:27
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Avoid judgment and remain objective and keep discussions about the habit, not the person. Discuss the behavior as a specific behavior and avoid generalizing it in a way that suggests the person is annoying. ID triggers and help identify whether there are particular situations that seem to trigger the unwanted action. Keep a log or journal that includes details such as time, location and emotion associated with the bad habit. Take baby steps and start by setting small, attainable goals. For example, when someone finds themselves wanting to do the bad habit, they can make it a goal to resist doing it for a short period of time. Put up barriers and make the bad habit more difficult. Fill the void and suggest that they replace that action with a positive behavior. Be patient and don't lecture or nag if you see your loved one slip. Reinforce the positive and make note of good efforts and celebrate the wins, no matter how small.
Elnora Reichel
2025-06-28 21:25:13
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As a carer, try to understand why the person you look after is behaving in this way. If you can recognise the early warning signs, you may be able to prevent behavioural outbursts. Some people find a distraction can focus a person's energies elsewhere and prevent them displaying challenging behaviour. The person you care for might behave in a challenging way to get your attention. If this is the case, consider not responding directly to their behaviour – although you should not ignore them completely. But if their behaviour puts them or someone else at risk, you'll need to intervene as calmly as possible. Think about or ask the person why they're acting in a certain way. Stay calm, treat the situation with humour, rather than getting angry, distract their attention, rather than getting confrontational. If other people are present, explain to them that the behaviour is because of an illness and is not personal.
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