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Why do I cry after social events?
Breana Kreiger
2025-06-23 03:55:37
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Feeling like crying after socialising.
New to autism self dx, but this is something that I've experienced a lot through my life and experienced again yesterday.
Basically when I'm socialising for a long time with anyone that aren't my comfort people, even family, no matter how fun or positive the experience was, I will often come away feeling immensely like I need to cry.
It's like I'm suddenly drained of any energy and my brain begins the spiel of repeating all the conversations I've had again and again in my head almost compulsively and it's very hard to drown it out and I just feel wiped and like I want to cry.
Eldora Bruen
2025-06-23 02:09:30
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I think it has to do with trying to process all the various emotions attendant with social occasions. Socialising is exhausting, and if I haven't had a particularly good time or have felt excluded I definitely have moments on my own where I curse myself for not being able to act normal or for looking weird. There's a couple of things going on, the first is that there is just a sensory and emotional overload that needs to release itself. The second is that often, in a large group of people or highly social event, as the night goes on I will start to feel more and more sad. It's as you say, a "tug at the heart," or like something is missing that I can't quite put my finger on. It's like I'm on the outside looking in at all of these people enjoying their time together, and I just can't relate or feel that same connection. The best word to describe it is melancholy. I cry not because I want to have lots of friends and be super social, but because the whole situation, that disconnect, is just sad.
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Wilbert Rempel
2025-06-22 23:43:10
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I don’t dislike people. But I need a lot of alone time. It isn’t just social interaction that exhausts and stresses me, however. Noise, traffic, even housing estates, can really affect me. Deep down, I crave silence and space. I literally need them, like food and oxygen. I got so overwhelmed by the heat and noise and traffic that I felt close to a breakdown. Twice during that heatwave I ended up in tears. Modern Britain is hell for introverts.